How to Find Your Passion and Purpose in Life with
One of my favorite sayings is: “Sometimes you are the hammer and sometimes you are the nail.” It’s a perfect allegory for the good, bad, and ugly of life.
You can choose to get hammered with okay jobs, a good pay, and no time to spend time with your loved ones or do the things you enjoy.
Or you can be the hammer, controlling every aspect of your life, finding your purpose, and embracing your passion.
But the latter is always much harder than the former. Luckily enough, anyone can become the hammer, as long as they have an open mind.
So how do you do it? Two words – lifestyle design.
What is lifestyle design?
Do you remember when you were a kid? If your parents, friends, or anyone else asked you “What do you want to be when you grow up?” you’d always answer without thinking.
And each answer would always be filled with great and vivid details, as if you were already living that life.
That is lifestyle design, a skill that we have from the beginning, but forget as we grow up.
On the flip side, no kid wishes for a 0.5$/hour raise at their dead-end job, which is something most adults want for some reason.
To do lifestyle design, you need to take charge of your life. You need to design a plan that fits your ideal lifestyle.
Whether you want to work on your laptop while sleeping on the beach. Or if you want more time to spend with your loved ones.
All of it is up to you. It depends entirely on your lifestyle design.
How to find your purpose and passion in life?
You get in life what put into it. This is especially true about questions.
To get the answer you want, you just need to ask the right question. Even if you want to find your passion and purpose.
You can find your passion and purpose in life by answering a few simple but important questions from Tiny Buddha.
- Why are you here?
- What do you want to achieve in this world?
- When do you feel the most excited?
- What do you love to do most?
- Where would you most like to do it?
- Who would you most like to do it with?
- What sort of impact do you hope to make on others with it?
The more specific your answers are, the easier you can define your passion and purpose.
Remember, this is not graded. Only you see the results, so don’t cheat yourself.
Take time to answer these questions to the best of your abilities. Your heart already knows what you want, but sometimes our mind gets in the way.
Once you have the answers in front of you, that’s when you’ll start seeing your passion and your purpose.
Stop your excuses
We all have our excuses. “I don’t make enough money”, “I don’t have time”,”my kids don’t listen to me”, “my house sucks”, “I’m not happy,” and so on.
The problem is these excuses are just that: excuses. Why are you working in the first place? Do you enjoy it? Or are you just a slave to your paycheck?
You can tell yourself the sweet lie that you’ll find your passion and purpose, eventually. All will be fine and dandy when you do! Right? Wrong.
Maybe you feel your passion and purpose will happen later.Don’t forget, today is only here for 24 hours. It will be gone by the time the Earth makes a full rotation. Take advantage of life before it passes you by.
Let’s examine some of the most common excuses more closely, so we can see more clearly why they’re actually ridiculous.
Excuse 1: Not enough money
If there was a 500-page book of excuses, this excuse would fill up the first 450 pages.
Why don’t you start up the food truck? Don’t have enough money
Why not spend more time with your kids? Don’t have enough money
Why not travel more? Don’t have enough money
I think somewhere in the annals of history, this phrase was hard-wired into human brains as a quick excuse to not take any chances.
The unconventional truth is you always have options. To save money, to make money, to get more for your money. You just don’t like doing the things that are out of your comfort zone.
For example, instead of spending $20 per month on cable, why not cancel the subscription for 3 months?
What about cooking your own meals instead of paying for overpriced snacks and fast food?
A recent study discovered 36% of employees would give up $5,000 in salary per year to be happier at work?
A great way to reduce the uneasiness of the money question is to know the cost of your lifestyle change.
Timothy Ferriss created a lifestyle cost tool to figure out your Target Monthly Income and create a Dreamline, so you can create a target date to achieve this dream.
Excuse 2: What will my (mom, dad, significant other, etc.) say?
A psychological need drives us to please others. The great thing about lifestyle design is we can forget about what your parent, spouse, or friend says about your choices.
This is your time to figure out the lifestyle you want. While extensive selfishness helps no one, a little selfishness helps you find your passion and purpose. In the end, that helps everyone.
The best way to do this is to start on what you want. Using the lifestyle design questions above, you can provide a more cognizant reason for doing what you want to do.
Plus, it sounds better than because.
If they laugh at your dreams, they are not worthy of your time. This might be difficult to hear in some cases, but vital to understand.
Excuse 3: But what if
These are fun excuses? What if a nuclear holocaust breaks out tomorrow? Or what if I die? What if I fail?
The biggest what if is what if I die with my dreams still inside me. Change is scary, but so is dying without fulfilling your purpose and passion in your life.
It will never be the perfect time to do anything. But, this is the best reason to do it.
Plus, the great thing about this is you can start small. If you want to travel the world, start out with a month-long sojourn to another country. See how it works. If you want to start your own business, do so while you are still employed.
Taking advantage of your dreams does not mean you have to do everything right now.
You will always have an excuse to not find your purpose and passion in life. From family obligations to work to money to anything else in between.
However, lifestyle design helps you rise above this with specific thoughts and ideas to help you move forward with your dreams.
The biggest question we can ask you is have you found your purpose and passion in life? Leave a comment below!
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